Resources
At our workshops we share resources that can help parents and young people stay safe online and navigate conversations about pornography. Below are some of our favourite tools (including our device contracts), books and websites.
For Parents of Children Under 12
These resources help parents start early, age-appropriate conversations and set up healthy digital boundaries.
Books and Conversation Tools
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures - Kristen Jensen
A helpful guide for talking with younger children about pornography, including how to recognise it and what to do if they see it.Where Willy Went - Nicholas Allen
A funny and simple introduction to reproduction for children aged 3+.
The Amazing True Story of How Babies are Made - Fiona Katauskas
A highly regarded book for young children providing a lighthearted yet factual and inclusive explanation of sex and reproduction.
Parent Education
Tricky Chats Parenting Course - Jo Roberston
A New Zealand parenting course featuring 17 video lessons topics including consent, puberty, online safety, play dates, sleepovers, pornography, ‘the sex talk’, abuse, stranger danger, media literacy and more. Use discount code taimakorero for 15% off.
For Parents of Teens
These resources help teenagers understand pornography, online relationships and digital choices.
In the Know
Info, help and tips on porn and online sexual content designed specifically for ages 13+.Fight The New Drug
Stories, research and tools for young people wanting to understand impacts of pornography. Includes practical steps for teens if they are consuming porn.Brain-Heart-World (Documentary Series)
A three-part documentary exploring how pornography affects the brain, relationships and society. Each episode is around 30 minutes.A free service that helps remove or stop the online sharing of nude, partially nude or sexually explicit images of young people under 18 from the internet. Based in the USA this service can be used by young people anyone in the world.
God's not ashamed of sex, so neither are we. We'll have any conversation and answer any question. No topic off limits.
A guide to sex, love and you. For what your Sex Ed left out.
IMPORTANT: Please note that Bishuk.com is not a faith-based website, and it contains content that, as Christians, we would not typically endorse. However, we recognise that some older youth in your community may not be connected to a Christian home and could benefit from external support. We encourage you to exercise wisdom and discretion in deciding who to share this resource with.
Practical Tools for Families
Device Contracts
Our Device Contracts are popular with families who attend our workshops. They help parents and young people set clear expectations for technology use. Please download our contracts and edit to suit your family.
Download:
Device Contract for Under 10 Years - Word document
Device Contract for 11 Years and Over - Word document
Filtering and Online Safety Tools
Safe Surfer - Kid-Safe Phone
Safe Surfer has partnered with Samsung to offer their amazing Safe Surfer features ready-to-go on a range of smart phones and tablets. Designed for safe communication with trusted friends and family, the Kid-Safe Phone lets you choose how much functionality you want your child to have, with options to increase their access to the online world incrementally, when you and they are ready. Buy your Kid-Safe Phone or Tablet here.
Safe Surfer - Filtering System
Safe Surfer provides a simple & easy way to stay safe online. Enter ‘time2talk’ in the coupon section to receive a small discount. Their Pro Surfer online service can be reached here.The Good Source - Filtered Internet Service Provider (ISP)
A New Zealand internet provider offering filtered internet services for families. Mention Tāima Kōrero when you sign up to their service to support our cause.
Conversation Starters for Parents
We’ve created tools to help make these conversations easier.
Pornography Conversation Starters
Suggested questions to help you begin talking with your child or teenager.Print & Cut Conversation Starters
Downloadable cards you can place in your car, kitchen or home to prompt conversations.
Social Media Conversation Starters
Questions to help you explore your young person’s social media world together.Culture Reframed - Parent Programmes
Provides parent programmes on talking with young people about hypersexualised media and pornography.How to Talk with Young People About Pornography - NZ Classification Office
This site covers some great articles and news on what's happening in NZ around porn, and introduces some conversations starters and tips around how to approach the conversation.
Research and Information
For parents who want to better understand what young people are experiencing online.
Growing up with P*rn - NZ Classification Office Report:
52 young people around NZ chose to talk at length about porn and what they are facing. Great read if you parent teenagers. This report shows that our teens want their parents to talk about porn.NZ Youth & P*rn - NZ Classification Office Report:
2000 young people (aged 14-17) throughout Aotearoa were surveyed on their porn use. This can be hard to read but interesting to grasp what is happening in Aotearoa, from a teen perspective.Content that Crosses the Line. Conversations with young people about extremely harmful content online - NZ Classification Office Report:
This report shares information from our young people about the types of extreme content they are consuming online, and how they feel about it.
Other Helpful Websites
Protect Young Eyes - Social Media, Gaming, Photo & Video Apps Explained for Parents
This site focuses on what apps our young people may be using, including details on what the apps offer and what, as parents, we need to look out for.The Light Project - Resources
A New Zealand website with an excellent collection of resources to help young people and parents, including links, books, professional services and more.Taima Korero - FAQs
We’ve created some short video answers to some of the most common questions we receive from parents.
B416 - Website & Petition
A New Zealand movement aimed at raising the age of social media use to 16. If you support this idea, please visit their website, follow them on socials and sign the petition.
Women’s Support
Lisa Taylor is a counsellor and multi-award-winning author living in New Zealand’s Northland. Her own journey towards healing from betrayal began in 2010 and she began leading support groups for betrayed partners in 2014.
Men’s Ministry Resources
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